I'm hoping that after posting this message, I will have some responses and clarity regarding my issue...

I am a 27 years old female about to finish graduate school this may (woohoo!). During my first year, I met someone in my class who I thought was the guy I was going to marry. The only problems were that he lived across the country (west coast), and I live in the midwest - which wasn't going to be an issue for me initially, as I have always wanted to move out west and enjoy the sun . However, the only major issue I had was that I am a vegetarian and he wasn't. Being a vegetarian is very important to me, which I explained to him prior to us dating which he said he would be willing to become a vegetarian. (To me, different religion or culture is fine, I am willing to compromise.. but a veggie diet is very important to me - like I say to my friends " I will not be cooking chicken for my kids" haha)

So 3 years go on, and we are doing well. He meets my parents and I meet his. When I met his parents for the first time, they didn't really ask me any questions about my family or myself, which I thought was weird. But overall I thought that the trip went well. I tried to communicate back in forth with my bf's mom but she never reciprocated. But I didn't think otherwise.

Right before christmas break, my bf and I visited my parents for the weekend. My parents were concerned about this relationship and where it was going. Their daughter is 27 years old, ready to graduate and not married! So they had a discussion with my bf asking where this was going and if there were any plans for the future. My bf didn't say anything. Afterwards, my bf comes to me all pissed off and upset that I allowed my parents to talk to him like that. He was so upset that he called his parents from his car (outside my parent's house) and his parents basically told him to drive back home and leave me. I explained to him that my parents did not mean any harm or disrespect, they were just looking out for their daughter. He was more upset that I did not stand up to him in front of my parents. (I am a daughter of indian-asian descent - it's very hard to speak up when you are the girl). I apologized on behalf of my parents and even asked my parents to apologize to him the next day (even though they felt they didnt do anything wrong)

So during christmas break (6 week break), I get only 3 calls from him. NYE he calls for 2 mins and says his phone is dying and he has to go. I was being a good gf that I texted his brother and parents merry christmas and happy new year. He didnt even contact my family. My grandma went to the hospital over one weekend and he didnt even call to see how I was doing. I was so hurt and pissed off during this break - I felt that I didn't even have a boyfriend. So when we were back at school, he explains to me that he needs time to think about the relationship. He was still upset that I did not stand up for him in front of my parents. He said that "in the future how will this relationship work if I don't support him?" I've told him a million times that I would support him and everything that he does and those people are my PARENTS! I will always love and support my parents.

I also find out that he ate meat during break which I was really pissed about it. (I truly cannot be with someone who eats meat). I explained to him that this was something we discussed 3.5 years ago.. and he responded.. "I don't feel like doing something when I am mandated to do it" I mean why the hell were u with me for 3.5 years then?!

So we ended up breaking up a few weeks back.. and he said that don't expect me running after you like they do in movies.. and it's been really hard! Especially when you have to see them every day at school. I want it to work but it's just really hard. Idk what to do.. I wasted 3.5 years in this and I think its the time I spent that is pissing me off. I mean I invested so much time in this that it's upsetting what the outcome is.

I just feel that his family places my family on a lower scale.. yes my parents are a middle class family who came to the US with nothing and yet they have 2 kids who are doctors. He comes from a multimillionaire family both parents went to grad school.. i mean whatever.. it shouldn;t be like that...

sorry for the long post.. i appreciate those who take the time to read my story.. any advice/input/comments, please reply. any help or clarity would be appreciated.